Monday, 10 October 2011

Do we really want our marriage to be a success?

There are numerous cases where marriage relationships get effected by the behavior of either or both the spouse.

It starts of with simple behavioral characteristics of an individual's personality.
Some of them particular to marriage relationships are
  1. Attitude
  2. Domination
  3. Jealousy
  4. Possessiveness
  5. Obsession
  6. Different priorities
  7. Desires
  8. Unfulfilled needs
Most of the problems can be solved with a healthy communication.
The most important questions we have to ask ourselves are
  1. Do we really want our marriage to be a success?
  2. What are the root causes which are giving rise to the problems?
  3. What steps can be taken to resolve them?
  4. Where and to what extent are we willing to change ourselves?
Most problems start of with very minor behavior irritants and grows very big due to non addressing the issues in time.

We wait too long to give the feedback where the behavior has become so atrocious that making a change now would be a monumental task. We come to a point where we start hating the person. This would not be so, if we had the courage and the foresight to correct them when it all started. Our apathy and negligence has fed the small irritant to turn it into a big monster.

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  3. A rigid or rebel attitude, feeling of insecurity, carrying unresolved baggage affects our thinking leading to relationship downwards towards its demise. It then is very hard to see the good in that person; which clouds our judgment to put our own stance aside to embrace theirs.

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    Young couples.
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    Couples who wait too long before seeking help.
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