It starts of with simple behavioral characteristics of an individual's personality.
Some of them particular to marriage relationships are
- Different priorities
- Unfulfilled needs
The most important questions we have to ask ourselves are
- Do we really want our marriage to be a success?
- What are the root causes which are giving rise to the problems?
- What steps can be taken to resolve them?
- Where and to what extent are we willing to change ourselves?
We wait too long to give the feedback where the behavior has become so atrocious that making a change now would be a monumental task. We come to a point where we start hating the person. This would not be so, if we had the courage and the foresight to correct them when it all started. Our apathy and negligence has fed the small irritant to turn it into a big monster.