First a good doctor diagnoses the illness.
Next he finds out what has caused it.
Then he decides what the cure is.
Finally he prescribes the medicine or gives the treatment that will make the patient well again.
An ordinary doctor uses hit and trial methods.
Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
Both spouses should be like a good doctor.
Communication helps in diagnosing illness or the problems.
Further communication helps in finding what caused the problem.
Your actions towards the right direction to remove the problems works as the prescribed medicine.
In any relationships, problems will always occur.
It is like an illness which needs cure and some illness needs immediate attention.
Any hit and trial method will complicate the illness or the problems.
Some illness are diagnosed at a very late stage and the best doctor also raises his hands.
It may happen due to ignorance, non communication of discomfort, attitude and many other factors.
Chronic illness causes sufferings not just for the ailing person but for everyone else close to him.
A good doctor goes through a systematic study program deliberately created where he is given the knowledge of all kinds of known illness, their symptoms, what causes these illness, diagnostic techniques and the cure.
Unfortunately no such study program is easily available relating to relationship problems.
Marriage counselors are there but not much faith is shown in them by most of married people.
We all are lucky that a good amount of information is available through internet.
However we should be deliberate in finding good information and assimilating it wisely.
The most common Problems in Marriage are
- Unresolved baggage
- Unfulfilled expectations
- Sex and intimacy
- Financial Problems
- Intellectuals Problems
Many times we do not want to identify problems until it gets out of proportion.
One problem leads to another which leads to another.
We need to remember that marriages are not based on feelings but commitment.